“My mother was right”- Me pretty much every day.
The older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve come to realize that my mom did the best she could with the circumstances she was given. Honestly, I’ve found out she was right about EVERYTHING.
My mom had me when she was 17. Since there isn’t a big age difference, my mom was always the cool mom. She was my friend above all else. (except when I was a teenager, and I thought she was the worst).
I wish I could go back to my teenage self and tell her to stop being such a brat to mom. Tell her that we need to take Mom’s advice. Listening to my mom would have saved me a lot of trouble and heartbreak.
When she told me that I shouldn’t date that guy, I should have listened.
When she told me to stop messing around and focus on school, I should have listened.
When she told me, I should move out of town; I should have listened.
Instead, I was a young dumb teenage girl and chose to ignore her.
I dated that guy and what a waste it was.
I was too busy having fun instead of studying and messed up in school.
I chose to stay in town because I didn’t want to leave my friends, now I’ve lived here longer than I planned.
There are so many more times that I wish I listened to Her. I wonder how much life would be different if I realized she was telling me these things out of love. But my teenage brain saw it as nagging.
Later on, my mom suddenly became a single mom of three young girls when my dad left. She went from being a stay at home mom to working full time. She did it so we wouldn’t have to leave the only home we knew in our new hometown. My sisters and I had a lot of anger towards our dad, but we ended up taking it out on our Mom.
I can look back now and admit that she handled it like a champ and we were assholes.
I’m sorry momma for being a crappy teenager.
I often get told that my mom and I have the same attitude, facial expressions and even driving style (which I take as a compliment). And I hope that all leads me to be half the woman she is.
Thanks for reading,
P.S listen to your mom more!!